It's weird saying Happy Valentine's Day and actually meaning it since I'm usually so indifferent to the holiday. Even on years when I did happen to have a boyfriend it didn't really have much meaning to me. But now I feel like Valentine's day is more about your stance on the holiday as opposed to anything else. Everyone needs to either hate it, love it, or in most people's cases refuse to even acknowledge it.
I'm trying to think of this like if instead of Valentine's day, people felt this way about Mother's Day (or Father's Day). And it all just seems silly after that. It's like saying just because Mother's Day only applies to mothers you should boycott it. That it makes all the people without mothers feel horrible and the people with mothers have to go through the trouble to getting them gifts and planning out this whole day because they're there. Like, these holidays aren't mean to single anyone out, it's to show your appreciation for them if you have them.
So those who have someone to spend Valentine's day with, enjoy it! Not because it's Valentine's Day, but because you would be bored otherwise if your significant other wasn't there. And for those who don't have anyone like myself... Well... WRITE BLOG POSTS! Haha, no, but just enjoy it like it was any other day. There's no reason to get stressed out about not being in a relationship. Like honestly, who wants to get into a relationship with someone just so they're not alone on Valentine's Day? If you're going to get into a relationship with someone, it should be so you wouldn't need to feel the need to celebrate it just on Valentine's Day, but on any day.
It seems like this post is a direct...challenge/rebuttal to mine. I'm going to assume you read what I wrote here. Otherwise, it's just a bit of freaky coincidence.
ReplyDeleteI've found your point comparing Valentine's Day to Mother's Day pretty interesting. Once again, you've given me much to consider, just like you did Friday with the Homosexual/Genes/Left-Handed discussion. I have to say...I think you're right. Given what you've written in your second paragraph, when I look at my views on Valentine's day, it does just seem silly.
"These holidays aren't meant to single anyone out, it's to show your appreciation for them if you have them."
Well said.
After reading and re-reading that second paragraph, I really don't feel the same way about Valentine's Day anymore. I wouldn't go and say I would/should celebrate it but I don't think my reasons for hating is are valid. My thanks for your arguments. I feel that my eyes have opened...a little wider.
Some decent points here. I never really stress out about Valentine's day, since I have a habit of suddenly finding myself single around Valentine's day even if I was dating someone beforehand, and being Single on valentine's day removes any expectations for it. I just don't think about Valentine's day at all, and I expect it makes sense for most single people to just ignore it as just another day. :P
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